The Demasculinization of Man

I am so tired of commercials that make men look like bumbling idiots. I first noticed the trend about 8 years ago and it has gotten to the point where the media, commercials, and even the laws are designed to make men seem insignificant. In one commercial you have 2 women looking at miniblinds while the husband is attempting to barbeque grill outside. He sets the thing on fire, puts out the fire etc. while the women (ever cool and collected) look at miniblinds. In another one the woman moves her sleeping husband into a storage unit and leaves him there. The commercial ends with the man waking up and stumbling back into the house. A third has the woman cleaning the windows and the man waking from a nap and walking into the windows saying "it's not my house." Two birds are laughing that the man walked into the glass door. It is ridiculous that companies think that to sell products they have to "appeal" to women in such a way as to downgrade men to appearing like idiots while portraying women as nothing short of superheroes. I have written to some of these companies and informed them that I will not be using their products because of their biased commercials. Black and Decker for one can't even advertise a coffee maker without making a man look like a brainless wimp.

This idiocy is partly the result of womens groups that have a goal of making men unnecessary and insignificant. They target men via commercials, media and laws to make them virtually lower class than women. They get them with child support that is so overblown that a man can't live above poverty level while paying child support. The amount of support generally awarded is far higher than is necessary. Add to that the fact that when they award a support order they go back 2 years and tack on a debt of 2 years worth of back child support so that the average man ends up with a 25,000 debt the day the order is passed making it appear that he man is a "deadbeat" when in fact, the child support order was just enacted but the wonderful legal system tacked on a 2 year back debt. While a woman "has the right to choose", a man does not have that right. A woman can get an abortion if she decides that being a parent is not the right thing for her. A man is on the hook the second that woman decides to keep the baby and seek an order of support from him. There is no "right to choose" for a man. The choice is made for them by the courts and they are treated like criminals for implanting sperm into a woman that in many cases lied to them about birth control. My husband had previously been in a relationship with a woman that wanted to marry him. He made it clear that he did not want marriage or kids but low and behold but she decided to ditch the birth control and got pregnant thinking that would "force" him to marry her. When he would not marry her, she then sought child support. My husband only makes around $13 and hour but his monthly payment for this one child is over $600 a month. Add to that the 2 years automatic arrears that they tacked on that amount to around $24,000 and he's on the hook for a long time. If it weren't for me, he'd be homeless because there's no way he'd be able to live on the $500 a month that he is able to bring home. They make it virtually impossible to have the support order modified for the noncustodial parent. Every time we have tried, they have done nothing. As a result, my kids live with just the basic things while his kid gets $600 guitars, and name brand clothes that my kids will never see.

Then add on the "metrosexual" man. This is the man that is not gay but by all rights acts and dresses as if he is. The man that has more skin care products than most women and that has a feminine aura that would turn me off in a a split second but many women find attractive nowadays. I want a manly man. I want a man that works on cars, mows the lawn, and that wears jeans and a tshirt. I don't want a man that outdresses me. My husband and I work as a team, I am not in charge and he is not a bumbling idiot as is portrayed in numerous commercials. He pays his child support obligation that he was tricked into and we look forward to the day when we will be free of this debt. Bottom line is that this targeting of men needs to stop. Men are citizens that are as important as women. They are important to society, the economy, and to the women who love them. They should not be portrayed in the negative way that they are and the laws should not be biased to women while men are punished for something that a woman has a choice in. Things need to change.